Did you know this?

Here's a little fact about me that might shock you. Are you ready for this one?

I don't eat pap, custard, or ogi – you know, all those food items in that category. Nope, I don't eat it! You're probably thinking it's a bit odd, right? 

I mean, I just feel it's like food for very old people without teeth, all liquidy. I can't chew it, and honestly, I've often wondered what to do with it in my mouth!

Then came the dreaded ritual of taking pap after giving birth through a Cesarean section. It's like a tradition, right? But I dreaded that experience like the plague. I just couldn't bring myself to swallow it. So, after one day, I quit.

Now, one day, I witnessed something that made me reflect. I saw someone forcing pap down a child's throat, you know, the way we sometimes do it in Nigeria, especially those Yoruba grandmas. The child was screaming, and they were practically pouring the pap into its mouth. Some even go as far as pinching the child's nose, so they have to open their mouth for air, and that's when the pap would go in.

As I watched this scene, a thought crossed my mind: "Maybe someone did that to me as a child, which is why I've had a lifelong enmity with pap."

Now, I can't say for sure if that's the case, but one thing I do know from years of training is that childhood experiences profoundly affect your beliefs, mindset, attitude, and behavior. Some of the challenges you're facing in your sexual life may very well be rooted in childhood experiences, beliefs, or even trauma.

But here's the good news – it's absolutely possible to get the help you need to overcome these hurdles and embrace a fulfilling sexual life. Unlike the enmity between me and pap which would most likely be forever, you don't have to carry those burdens forever.

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Your Intimacy Coach

Jessenergizer